On Tuesday I had my first go around on the "other" side of the parent/teacher conference table. I was actually pretty nervous going in there and I couldn't pinpoint why. Owen's teacher had lots of nice things to say about him and gave him plenty of positive feedback. The majority of the "grades" on his progress report were "S"s, but there were a few "N"s.
For whatever reason, I felt really let down that he hadn't done better. I felt as though *I* had failed in some way. The areas where Owen received "N"s weren't areas that surprised me. They are areas were he'd receive an "N" at home too! I spent most of the day thinking about it, and I eventually realized that, A: To "need improvement" is not necessarily a bad thing. It's good to recognize areas where we could improve and strive to be better. B: This is preschool. He is three. This is NOT that big of a deal. (Matthew helped me figure that one out!)
In the end what I realized was really bothering me was the fact that a parent of one of my students once told me, "You don't understand what it's like to have to hear these things about your child."
I scoffed. It clearly wasn't *me* that didn't understand. They were the ones who didn't understand! What was so difficult to understand about your kid not being perfect. No one is. Why was that so hard to hear??
Now I get it. You spend the years leading up to school hearing from all of the other adults in your child's life how perfect they are. (Think: Grandma!) As a parent you know that they're not perfect... Of course they're not, but still somewhere deep inside, you appreciate hearing from everyone else what a perfect little angel your child is. Suddenly, they're in school and lo-and-behold the teacher tells you that your little angel is indeed NOT perfect... In fact, they "Need to improve"! Ouch.
Now I get it.
It was one of those moments of Karmic retribution for me. :)
In other news, we've been fighting off sickness. I started the week not feeling the best, then Owen started vomiting (FUN!), and Matthew is also not feeling too great. Hopefully we'll be able to kick whatever is plaguing us quickly!
Final Funny Story...
We were sitting around the dinner table the other night and Matthew asked Owen what he had done that day. Owen replied, "Played with the chickens". Matthew asked, "What did you play with the chickens? Baseball? Cars? Did you take them fishing?"
Owen looked at him and said, "Daddy, you can't take chickens fishing! They don't have any hands to hold the pole!"
His voice and face as he explained this fact to his dad were priceless. He couldn't believe that his daddy would not know such a simple thing!
Thursday, October 22, 2009
Sunday, October 18, 2009
This one is slightly out of order, but important nonetheless!!
To document our boys' growth, we took a photo of them beside the same bear each month on their "birthday". It was fun to see them change and grow with the bear as a reference point. On his birthday, we completed Eli's "bear photos". I love seeing them all together as a set, what a difference one year makes!
-To have friends and family like ours!
Yesterday we hosted Eli's 1st birthday party at our house and were blessed to celebrate with 25+ of our closest friends and family. Our house is small, it is not fancy, there weren't enough seats, but let me tell you; it was bursting at the seams with love. We have, hands down, the best family and friends anyone could ever ask for!
Have I mentioned lately how blessed we are?
We celebrated in style with chili and hot dogs. We ate cake and opened gifts. We exchanged MUCH witty banter :) Because our family is not only wonderful, they are funny as all get out! (Especially me and Jodi... We're funny girls! You should hear our elephant joke "shtick"!)
And of course the day wouldn't have been complete without my brother-in-laws "roasting" things over the fire! I WISH that I had a photo of Brett getting a shot of hot gourd juice right in the face!
The day couldn't have been any better and we're oh-so thankful!
Here are some of my favorite photos of our little one's special day!